It’s not just another catch phrase that you hear on the internet. “Put out what you want to attract.” it’s more than real and is very much true. It takes years of practice and implementation. You then get to a point where you change your environment to be around similar energy, or you have helped evolve the current culture in which you reside. It doesn’t happen overnight.
The circle of close ones if your life around you as well as the frequently environments in which you spend your time are always being reenforced for their current value structure, or they’re being otherwise influenced and changed. neither is “bad” in its nature. Its evolution. it’s the reason specific people and places remain the same or change. It’s up to the people within that tribe to drive change or reenforce existing values.
Back to the main point of the article: in a culture in which there are many leaders all of whom congratulate each other, bring each other up, recognize each other, validate each other, and respect each other has a powerful impact. Engagement amongst each other is reenforced and creates an environment where ideas, thoughts, and shared testimony are all common space. What is the benefit of this? Growth mindset individuals. More support and connection through struggles. More motivation and energy toward existing tasks. The ability to leave that environment and take something with you that impacts other areas of your life. It becomes more like a tribe when there is common goals, thoughts, and ideas discussed amongst men and women in that tribe.
What does all of this mean? Engagement as humans is necessary. Lots of the way society is set up today reenforced separation. Defensiveness. Envy. Looking at others different because they’re apart of ____________ or believe ___________. You will find lots of the time, if you approach a social situation and ask questions and approach it with curiosity, you will notice lots of the tendencies of humans.
Refrain from talking about yourself until someone has specifically asked for your opinion or about your story. Instead, acknowledge and congratulate the other men around you. Empathize by mirroring their emotion they show when telling a story they have to share. You ever get excited from telling a story and the person listening to you starts to smile and show the same excitement? They then proceed to dive more into your world. They’re empathizing like an expert. This is the type of energy that makes all of the men around us even better men. No need to defend of prove others wrong. Simply being in an environment of observation. Letting people believe what they want to believe. Not needing to prove them wrong. Empowering other males and leaders to take what they know and live by and continue to feel supported by those around us.
Lets take a dive into a culture that reenforces the opposite. You create an environment where opinions are not acknowledged. This reenforces many to become quiet and not step up to speak what is on their mind. It even further reenforces others to not stand up and support or acknowledge anyone that decides to speak. A culture of unspoken men. No engagement. insecurity. quick defensiveness because there is no open discussion or charismatic action. This culture now reenforces fighting for ourselves. No standing up or speaking when we feel something is right or wrong. Potentially even toxic.
Humans were meant to engage and connect physically. To look each other in the eyes. You ever see how difficult it is for many people to maintain eye contact today? You ever see how Stange it is when someone puts their hand on someone else’s shoulder? You ever see how see how people stare at the ground when walking toward each other because they rather look at the ground then make eye contact?
Break these patterns. Be different. Reenforce human values that have stuck since the beginning of time. Reenforce a culture of growth by engagement.
I’ve noticed many are surprised with the way that i create an open environment. Takes a minute for people to warm up into conversation. to think, “oh this guy actually wants to have a good convo.” its just what i do. I practice this type of leadership. let me tell you: it lightens up people’s worlds. Peoples eyes start to glow. Like they’ve never been acknowledged and heard like this before. its that simple. It breaks the loops and patterns that lots of non engaging humans are set in. It creates more quality engagement as well as more to bring to the table for the specific culture.
Try this:
ask questions.
when someone tells you something, really get into their headspace about what they could’ve felt like.
Stay present. Make other men feel great.
It will come back to you.
It will make you better.
More connected.
More quality.
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