They say a true deep loving connection beyond what words can describe has a deep level of intuition to it – understanding without reason put to it. You just know. The ability to sit in stillness with a partner, gaze into each other’s eyes for minutes on end, with no level of un comfort. Pure presence, no judgment, ultimate respect, and deep loving connection is felt. Mutual loyalty, desire, and unconditional love is felt in the moment we eye gaze with the right individual.
You ever spend time with a potential mate and actually feel the difficulty in being able to maintain eye contact with that person? Coincidentally this most likely is not a fit for an authentic genuine romantic commitment. Think about it. If you have had, or currently have a long term romantic relationship that you deem deeply loving, or at least has been at one stage: think about the ability to sit on the couch or lay in bed with your partner; eye gazing, smiling and being completely comfortable and vulnerable in that moment with pure simplicity.
Eye gazing is extremely important. Even simply the way that I observe couples look at each other. I can tell where things stand. the eyes really do not lie. there is lots to understand from the eyes. The look I see one partner give to another when words are not even present. We humans pick up on nonverbal communication well, but animals are the true masters of this.
it’s not coincidence that powerful partners have powerful eyes for each other. Loyal eyes. When I observe what seems to be a “healthy relationship,” I always take notice to the facial expressions. The smile and the eyes. they seem to really mimic each other well. At one point I believe I read some literature on the mirroring of partner’s facila expressions after a long-term relationships. Seeing similar mannerisms in partners who have that natural, open, healthy loving flow. Non verbal’s man. Lots in how we look and how we move. Pretty darn cool.
Some people might be thinking, “Well I’m not really having this intimate deep eye gazing time with my partner currently and we’re doing pretty good.” Thats okay. its not that you’re doing anything wrong. its mainly an awareness of something so simple that has been present since the beginning of time. Think about when there was no tv, no cell phones, no electronics, and no automobiles. You were forced to engage with people more in person. You were forced to rely on each other a bit more. you were forced to engage, play games, make love, and interact lots more than we do in the present.
So what?
It means that some of the sacred traditional pieces to deep connection may have gotten lost in transit at some point down the road. deep, simple moments and being able to go talk a walk with you partner when no one else is around, sit on a bench, have conversation with each other and be so content in the moment that your love and gazing into each other’s eyes is all that you need; and can be appreciated very highly.
So maybe this is an awareness to the benefit of eye gazing and intentional moments outside of life’s entertainment, tech devices, flashy screens, loud noises and fast paced everything…. sure is.
Are you able to sit in simplicity with your partner:
reading a book
having a cup of coffee
going on a walk
laying in bed cuddling holding one another and looking at each other in appreciation
going on a long car ride
etc
the simple moments tell lots about a relationship and if it is meant for your soul or not. what do you feel in these simply non distracted moments with your partner?
It’s easy to ride the highs with a partner. But how do I feel when we are living life’s simplest most private moments? At home together alone. quiet. sharing a cup of coffee. Do we still love each other in those moments? When we look at each other, can we maintain that eye gaze where we both know we’re sealed at the soul? Not settling for anything less than this. We can only fight the soul for so long. Forget the fancy resume. the cool job. What do you actually see and feel when you look into your potential life partner’s eyes?
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