Lots of theories on daydreaming and the subconscious mind. I’m not going to explain all of that science in detail on that edit. I’m going to simply talk about what these types of thoughts mean and how they might have an effect on our lives. Open us up to perspective and potentially listening to these types of thoughts.
They say what you value set in life is not necessary where you put you time, but where your mind is at. For example: you might work a job that your soul or spirit are not present with. you look at it as a paycheck and a paycheck only. and while you’re working that job, you daydreaming about being an artist, construction worker, pilot, or whatever else it happens to be. I would then say, we aren’t necessary defining our lives by our simple 9-5 that drains energy from us in this circumstance. But our desire or our fantasy to be something more that would fall in line with what our souls are pulling us toward. our soul is telling us something when our mind is wondering and its repetitive. its normal to have millions of thoughts. curiosity is a normal part of life. are these reoccurring thoughts something that needs acknowledged and communicate to someone? Potentially a relationship conflict that needs more light shed upon it? Are these reoccurring thoughts putting us in different places that we might be able to spend a little more time in? Sometimes there is not a reasonable answer. that intuition part of you will speak to you. you will feel it. and you will get a feeling deep down when you know something is right or not right for you.
Do you have a similar fantasy that sparks up your energy and excites you? Is that fantasy something that is currently nonexistent in your life? Are the reoccurring dreams you have at night putting you in a different place? One unlike the life you’ve living in the present?
Its not that we need to make an extreme decision all at once. maybe the fantasy of being near the beach in a different country, or the bright sunshine coming down on you on the sand is potentially telling you that you might need to prioritize a bit more time outdoors. specifically near the water. listening to the waves crash. feeling your feet grounded into the earth or the sand. this a small example.
Maybe in your job, you’re very independent and you don’t need to rely on others. but your mind is constantly going toward being in groups and seeing people smile, work together and build… maybe in this instance, you can find a balance by potentially volunteering, or intentionally making plans with a group of people to do something of like interest.
One of the toughest ones is the career. this is our stability. the reason we have a roof over our head and food on our plate. Most of us can’t just quit our jobs today with no consequences. however, i see lots of people stay in careers long term that their souls are being drained in. they look 10 years older than they actually are because the stress of 1. fighting what their soul wants and 2. not giving the impact to the world in a way that’s meaningful to them is simply draining them like a dried out sponge. people that live the healthiest and longest have lots of purpose and drive toward something and very healthy relationships. how can we reflect on this and how we approach our careers?
its not that easy. we make sacrifices for our jobs to have financial goals, life balance goals, or whatever it is that we desire in the period of our lives. every day is not this fairy tale. there are pros and cons with all decisions. but i would have to say that the pros better outweigh the cons to an extent that allows you to feel like you’re making your own unique impact on the world or giving your uniqueness to what it is that you pursue or where, and whom you spend your time around.
sometimes, when we fantasize or daydream, we imagine ourselves displaying characteristics that we normally don’t display. for example: a more quiet individual that doesn’t spark up convo, might fantasize about smiling confidently, leading a group and being that person that radiates the light. in the situation, it will be uncomfortable to change our norm. to change the nature of how we approach people and the day in front of us. we all have those days. where you want your alone time. but then there’s days where you really want to engage and be involved with people. these are the little signs on the day to day. little messages from our internal to embrace that energy. listen to it. might be uncomfortable at first, but this is purely foundation of:
self awareness. what are we feeling? What do we desire more of? what is the effect of our thoughts and actions? How are the actions we’re taking through the day casting votes toward a specific identity?
simply put: be who you want to be. Listen to those dreams. think about what they’re telling you or what they aren’t telling you…. listen to that inner talk. even communicate it to a close individual in your life. “hey man, I’ve been feeling a pull lately to explore a bit more. i kind of just feel like i want to spend some time together, and go to a museum or go for a hike. something adventurous. I’ve been having lots of thoughts lately about getting out of my familiar routine and being a bit more adventurous.”
that’s just one example. there’s many simple ways that we can find that peace with our inner daydream and thoughts that creep up on us out of nowhere. they all add up. they all mean something.
what happens when we ignore them? We potentially over time will be living a low fulfillment life. burn out. stress and fatigue beyond belief. overwhelming thoughts. potentially even to a point where the frustration builds up high. next thing we know, we’re making extreme decisions like getting blacked our drunk, arguing with our partners, or making choices and using words that we might end up regretting. maybe even reaching toward quick, easy pleasures that are not beneficial for us.
We can prevent this uncontrollable frustration and build up by simply checking in with ourselves. allowing some time of calm through the day. disconnecting from the cell phone and breathing. taking a walk. sitting on a bench. letting the day set in. and listening to those thoughts and seeing where your mind goes to. realizing what we want more of in our lives, or when we need to say no more often…
this is taking responsibility for our lives. we must listen to the inner talk. the daydreams. we must have a relationship with the inner talk. your soul and heart wont lie to you.
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