I’ve learned over the course of my life by observation of others and also personal experience that the word “busy” gets throw around lots. It’s a word that gets tossed into usual conversation and a pretty familiar word in the norm of our society currently. We must be aware of how we’re using the word, how often, and in relation to what context. what i mean by this is: here are some familiar perspectives to what the word busy can actually mean:
Are you spending time being “busy’ just to be busy? Just to fill the schedule and stay in a hard charging go-go-go mode? Is what you’re actually doing with your time what makes you happy? Do we use the word busy to let others know “hey, I really am not going to be able to prioritize you into my schedule?” Is the word busy a way to justify why there is no more room for ____ in our life? How’s things been lately? “Busy.” There are 1,000,000 reasons why we can stay “busy” today. 1,000 applications on your iphone, work places that expect faster and quicker results, fast paced instant results with the technology in our lives and work places, Wrapped up into the routines every day.. You can see there are a million reasons why we all claim to be “busy.”
This brings up a huge awareness: Continuously being able to step back and think, “are there unnecessary actions in my routine that I can take out? Are there more efficient ways to use my time toward _____? Is me spending my time doing _______ or with person ______ serving what i imagine my well valued time to feel like?
Lets look at the word Values:
Values are individual beliefs that motivate people to act one way or another. They serve as a guide for human behavior. Generally, people are predisposed to adopt the values that they are raised with. People also tend to believe that those values are “right” because they are the values of their particular culture.
What shapes our values? Our decisions every single day. Not only what you spend your time on but mentally what consumes your brain energy. Values are shaped by our consistency or lack of it. There may be a strict set of values in people’s lives that motivates them daily to carry out how they choose to love. Whether its work, family time, exploration, fitness, health, thrilling activities, spiritual faith and discipline, hobbies, etc. We spend our time on what it is we want our identity to be. Each action is a vote toward the identity you’re living into.
For Example: Does someone want to be more social and open to letting others in? Maybe their value set is leaning toward openness, exploration and saying yes to invitations or assertiveness toward pursuing these types of things. Maybe someone has value sets in line with a tight close knit group of loved Ones and they’re less open to expanding that circle. Their value sets are more committed to a small group of people and a practice of loyalty to those individuals. Both are very okay and unique in their own ways. When better understanding others around us, its valuable to be able to understand where they physically spend their time and where they mentally spend their time.
The next time you hear the word busy, take a second and think about what that word really means. We’re humans all living different lives. Everyone around you. Even as similar as some people seem to be to you, we’re all slightly different in the way we approach things and what we spend our time one.
Some people desire more people in their livers with similar values. I’ve seen this lots now the older that i get. approaching 30, it seems as though, more and more people are starting to really live into a certain set of values. Versus being 16 years old and running around like a chicken with our heads cut off.
I have seen how conversation changes depending on people in the room and the set of values those individuals have. One of the best lessons: Its better to ask questions and make it about the other person when interacting in person, because you never know what set of values that person may have. they may be 100% different than you. when it comes to interaction, the best way to bridge that gap and make things a bit more casual is to sense that pretty quickly and simply invest into another person’s world. Making it about yourself lots of time creates distance between you and the person in front of you. Because that person may have no idea what you mean or no interest in what it is you have to say. Value sets play a large role in the way conversation is approached and carried out. One thing I’ve noticed is: Its gets easier over time to interact when we practice making it about others and learning more about what the audience is in front of you.
By this point it makes a little more sense why a standard reply is “I’m busy.” A million different lives around you making a million different decisions on how they specifically want to live their lives.
We are all busy.
Just thoughts.
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