Love Languages: what are they + the ways in which I specifically feel most loved :)

1. Words of Affirmation
2. Physical Touch
3. Receiving Gifts
4. Quality Time
5. Acts of Service

We have to clearly communicate how we feel most special, more attended and cared for, and things to avoid when it comes to love language with our partners or close individuals in our life.

Next: Lets clearly layout 5 different love languages, and I GUARANTEE YOU, you will identify strongly with one or more. Even all of them if you’re a needy bitch like me. haha. But seriously though. It’s okay to appreciate being loved in many different ways. Some are going to be more special than others, depending on the individual and also the situation at hand.

1. Words of Affirmation

***Encourage, affirm, appreciate, and listen actively… done so by sending an unexpected note, text or card.. avoiding not recognizing or appreciating effort***

Needy Bitch Chas: Let me tell you. I absolutely love when someone can take interest in what I have to say or what I care about. sending me random messages or just bringing to light the little things that mean something to me are ways to my heart. I get really excited about things almost like a little kid. when someone can support and appreciate that goofy creative side of me, errrrrr maaaaa gerddddddd. I fall.

2. Physical Touch: ***Non-verbal use of body language and touch to show love. done so by hugs, kisses, cuddling. avoid physical neglect.***

Needy Bitch Chas: My oh my. Who am I without the physical? I love to worship and love someone who can handle how much I like to express my physical love. I find myself resting my hand on someone without realizing im doing it. I extremely appreciate when someone reciprocates by rubbing my back, playing with my hair, resting their feet on me, and we will just stop right there for now. haha

3. Receiving gifts: ***Thoughtfulness, make your spouse a priority. Done so by giving thoughts girts or gestures, express gratitude when receiving gifts. Avoid unenthusiastic gift receiving and forgetting special occasions***

Needy Bitch Chas: let me tell you. surprise me and you bring out the joyous little child in me. I get excited over the smallest shit. look. im discipled as all hell. but you can bring out the child in me REAL fast. people close to me know this, and that part of me only comes out when im extremely happy. so surprise me. and you might even make me cry. in a good way. haha

4. Quality time: ***Uninterrupted and focused conversations. one on one time is most important . don’t so by creating special moments, talking walks, and small things with your partner. avoid distractions when spending time together, and avoid not prioritizing one on one time outside of the busy schedule. ***

Needy Bitch Chas: OH MY GOD. Talk about the biggest turn on. Someone who can not only look forward to the one on one special time we have, but staying fully present during that. cell phones away. good eye contact and just laughing and being goofy together. you’ve got my heart sealed and taken for eternity. A common trend amongst me is planning ahead for me. suprising me with little adventures. little notes. periods of time to just walk or lay back and appreciate each other’s presence. I feel really special when someone knows how plan alone time with me, little adventures and make me smile.

5. Acts of service: ***let them know you are wanting to help, to lighten their load. done so by making them breakfast or dinner. prepping meals. getting some things done for them. avoid lacking follow through on small and large tasks***

Needy Bitch Chas: While these do sounds amazing, it sorta comes back to the aspect of surprising me. Meal prep for me. I will love you. Surprise me with a cooked dinner. I will love u. tell me something like “hey, im thinking about doing _____ to make your day a little easier, I know today has been exhausting.” things along those lines .shit. I like thinking about this.

As you can see, there are several ways in which we experience love. physically, mentally, emotionally. .It all depends. Some days, there may be some that you are feeling more than the others. it comes down to communication with what we need in relationships. not so easy all of the time. the more we communicate what we need and when we need it, the more we get eachother. its not a bad thing to enjoy feeling loved in many different ways.. diversity. flexibility. it makes life a bit more fun.

hope this helps you understand a little more about what ways u feel most special. now do this: go tell a loved one. reflect on this. journal about it. understand it. love is important.