Sometimes it’s easy for us to think we should give all of our love, attention and energy to others. Or that we for some reason don’t deserve the same attention. It’s easy to put energy toward ourselves on the back burner when life gets busy.
A lesson I’ve learned for a solid 4-5 years now is attending to my own responsibilities, self work and reflection despite what is going on in my life.
Initially, thinking about going to a coffee house and just breathing, working on the business, journaling, drawling or whatever activity feels natural can sometimes seem “stupid or under valued.” When is the last time you went out to eat and ate a meal by yourself at a restaurant? Went to the park alone and took a walk by yourself. appreciated the nice weather and just the ability to breath and have the freedom to appreciate nature. When is the last time you decided to go to a bar alone and have 1-2 drinks and maybe play pool, just only and be okay with your own presence. Maybe conversations will spark up? You never know who you’re going to meet. The point is: Societal normals have devalued interaction and real appreciation for loving attention toward ourselves and others. Devalued but also lots of fear/anxiety toward what could possibly negatively happen in these types of circumstances.
Nah, let’s just sit at home alone. Tell ourselves we don’t deserve to smile. tell ourselves we don’t deserve happiness and joy. We don’t deserve to get outside, adventure a bit, buy ourselves good food, treat ourselves special.. theses are some of the things that are naturally programmed into people’s minds when we observe and believe the fear and negative media that goes around..
Are we forever going to be held back by fear of the unknown. Forcing ourselves to believe we are forever meant to be alone. Do we close our hearts off when we can feel that defense kicking in from inside that feels like “stay alone. You’re safe when you’re alone. Dont go out there. Theres someone waiting to hurt you.”
I face it just as much as anyone else does. Its hard in the moment to challenge those thoughts. to think “things will be okay. humans are good. I can go out and treat myself well and also will most likely run into other good humans.”
it’s hard. this is the hope that we have to live with. We have to believe in unconditional trust and love. We may get hurt over and over. It doesn’t mean things are always going to be like that.
Don’t be afraid to take yourself out. Accept yourself how you are right now. You always deserve love to the highest level. Love to yourself and love from others. The only one telling you different is yourself and the thoughts going through your mind. Every single one of us deserves the best life. Our best potential. Our highest potential of love and impact on the world. Believe it. It’s always been true but the environment around us has made us believe that we don’t deserve that.
Unconditional love toward ourselves and the world.
shits hard sometimes. start small. start with a cup of tea. start with slow breathing and some sunlight. start with stepping outside into the sun and telling yourself things will be okay. you have to believe it.
Practice it. its real. For everyone
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