How Often do we say when we’re listening to music, “that fires me up, that connects with me, that make me feel______, that calms me down, that helps me sleep, that sounds peaceful, that gets me in my feelings.”
Just like music, leadership follows along the same format. How are you making others feel? When they leave and think about you 1 week later, how did you make them feel? What did you leave with them?
Mind, Body, Spirit. People focus so hard on the first 2 categories. They take care of their minds with sleep, cold showers, optimal food, hydration… They take care of their bodies through exercise, skin care, stretching, etc….. But how are we ATTENDING TO OUR SOULS?
Though many different experiences and being on this planet for 28 years, I can honestly say that without satisfying the 3rd category (soul), we are left very empty and leave very little impact on the world. We can be great for ourselves, but how are we also great for others? How do we make them FEEL? What experiences do we create that are remembered forever?
A HUGE focus of mine has been to making it about OTHERS in conversation. I know who I am. I know me better than anyone knows me. So WHY would I make it about me? We must interact with the world and as leaders, focus on making it about OTHERS. Focus on making them FEEL something. Leaving others with a strong PRESENCE. One that is remembered far past the interaction in person. One that sits with them for months and years because of how attentive, present, and focused you were on how THEY are doing and how THEY feel.
It takes a long time to understand how much leadership is about OTHERS. Making them look good and feel good is a reflection of who you are and the environment you are creating to allow people to grow and be themselves. To unleash their talents. To make them feel comfortable and understand what it means to believe anything is possible. This is what leaders making other people feel like.
So just like music, leaders leave people with a feeling. You don’t forget that song you played after ____ when you were feeling ____ and now that song sits with you forever. it means something to you. it stimulated a feeling.
Real leaders stimulate feelings in others. This feeling empowers others to be themselves.
Be a question asker with people you care about. Be present. Take true interest. Be curious. Make it about THEM.
Watch how much more quality the conversations and connections with people get when you make it about them. Everyone wants to feel special.
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